How to talk to your family or partner about starting therapy

Published May 11, 2026.

Therapy can be a valuable experience for anyone, but much of the world still stigmatizes it. If you’ve already gone to or researched therapy yourself, you know how useful it can be for managing stress, addressing trauma, and working through mental illnesses.

When you see someone you love struggling, it’s natural to want to help them find the resources they need to feel like themselves again. Recommending therapy can feel like opening a can of worms, but knowing how to talk to a loved one about starting therapy can increase your chances of getting the person to listen to you.

How to talk to your family about mental health

Like therapy, everyone has a different opinion about what mental health is and how best to manage it. If this is your first time considering how to talk to your spouse, parent, sibling, or friend about starting therapy, approach the situation delicately and:

• Gauge their beliefs: Before you bring anything up, try to figure out how they feel about therapy and mental healthcare. This can help you determine how to start the conversation.
• Start small: It will probably take more than one conversation to change their opinion on therapy if it’s unfavorable. However, the more you bring it up naturally in conversations, the more they can get used to the idea of it.
• Stay calm: It can be frustrating to talk to someone who is uninformed about how therapy works. Be open to explaining and using facts from reliable sources like the National Center for Health Statistics to back up your position.

1. Choose the right setting

When you think it is time to sit your loved one down for the talk, make sure you choose a place that is comfortable for them. Avoid public places, and don’t invite people who may make them feel judged. You should also take time to ensure you and anyone else involved are coming into the conversation with the intention of helping the person, rather than shaming them or forcing them to bend to your will.

2. Avoid critique, anger, and ultimatums

Defensiveness is a common reaction when someone is told they need therapy, and it can be easy to feed into that energy and turn a conversation into a fight. It can help to remind the person that you love them and bring up some of the things you love about them. Avoid issuing ultimatums that take away control from the person, and try not to criticize them, remember, this is about getting them help, not punishing them for something that may very well be out of their control.

3. Offer empathy and support

Perhaps the best thing you can do for anyone in your life who is struggling is to let them know you’re there for them. You’re talking to them about therapy because you care about them, and there are countless ways to make that known, especially during this time. If they’re dealing with anxiety, maybe you can offer to make the call to a local therapist. If they have trouble leaving the house due to depression, you can suggest driving them to and from their appointments or helping them to consider a therapist who offers virtual appointments.

You could even do something entirely separate from therapy, such as cooking them dinner or taking care of a few chores so they have the time to go to their sessions.

If they aren’t quite ready to take those first steps, you could also open up to them about your own experiences with therapy if it would help. Knowing you can empathize with their challenges and have benefited from similar treatment may help ease some of their internal stigma and motivate them to look into their options.

How to explain you’re going to therapy to family or friends

Going to therapy is a highly personal and individualized experience. You should never feel like you have to share the information if you don’t want to or don’t feel safe to. However, if you’re talking to someone else about going to therapy, it may be helpful to share your firsthand experience of how therapy can be a valuable resource for anyone.

If you choose to share this information, these tips can help you do so effectively:

• Simple is best: Just as you’ve been learning in therapy, it’s essential to communicate clearly and openly with the people around you. Avoid euphemisms and beating around the bush, all you have to say is “I’m going to therapy to work through my own issues, too.”
• Be clear with your boundaries: Just because someone knows you’re in therapy does not mean they get to know everything you talk about in sessions. Share what you’re comfortable with, and be firm if anyone tries to push to learn more.
• Stay positive: You may be met with a range of reactions, and you should prepare for that. It may help to frame it as a helpful tool or resource. Explain that it’s part of your self-care routine, or that it helps you stay healthy by teaching you how to manage stress. This can also help you turn your experience into another selling point for the person you’re speaking with.

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